Cozy Resources

As the days get shorter and patios cooler, many of us are craving the quiet, calm, cozy quality of autumn. A season of increased introspection through self reflection, podcasts, curling up with a book, and cultivating new rituals.

Below are a few things that I have come across recently that created a ripple in my life; listens, reads, concepts, resources that resonated and I hope resonate for you too :) 

An idea: peace comes first 

We tend to operate thinking that once we get the thing, achieve the thing, get to a certain state, we will experience peace. Pursue our passion. Get married. Move to that neighborhood. Buy that sweater. Land our first client. Launch the program. Waitlist the event. Yet the reverse is actually true. If we focus on cultivating inner peace first, things will then naturally align and fall into place. We cultivate the fertile state for things in our life to flourish. Unfortunately, our society encourages this pursuit of peace through consumption and rewarding accomplishment, so this concept may seem simple to grasp but it’s certainly not easy. 

A practice: The power of a compliment 

Consider giving a daily compliment to someone — it could be a person you see daily, an acquaintance, a total stranger. We often think nice things about people but often, for various reasons, don’t share it. Yet you can probably distinctly remember random moments where someone said something nice about you. It sticks. It also feels really good to view the world looking for beauty and kindness rather than navigating from a place of judgment, which is all too familiar for many of us. To gift someone a compliment is to gift yourself happiness. 

A listen: Setting boundaries

This Pulling The Thread with Elise Loehnen episode was funny, full of wisdom and highly relatable. 

A concept: Human Design

This is something that I’ve been aware of for a long time and see coming up more and more in the wellness space, yet never really pursued until very recently when a good friend read me my Human Design type. It was a really beautiful experience and gave me an interesting perspective on how I can understand and honour myself more. The idea is we are all born a certain HD type based on our date, location and time of birth. From the moment we’re born, we embody this energy type, which includes unique traits, gifts and characteristics. Once you understand your energy type, you can start to hone in on your strengths and design your life in a way that is optimal for you and your energy and gifts. For me, it has validated some things that I have always felt but never truly honoured, like learning how to say no, feeling emotions arise intensely beyond what’s going on in my life, and relishing in joy. You can learn your Human Design type through a variety of resources out there, I opted for the Human Design App which is comprehensive & offers a visual or auditory overview of your type. 

A quote

“Healing doesn't require us to become anything new; rather, it requires we un-become everything we are not." — source unknown 

And another, in relation to last week’s post on cultivating intuition

 “This is how to start telling the difference between thoughts that are informed by your intuition and thoughts that are informed by fear: Intuitive thoughts are calm. Intruding thoughts are hectic and fear-inducing. Intuitive thoughts are rational; they make a degree of sense. Intruding thoughts are irrational and often stem from aggrandizing a situation or jumping to the worst conclusion possible. Intuitive thoughts help you in the present. They give you information that you need to make a better-informed decision. Intruding thoughts are often random and have nothing to do with what’s going on in the moment. Intuitive thoughts are “quiet”; intruding thoughts are “loud,” which makes one harder to hear than the other. Intuitive thoughts usually come to you once, maybe twice, and they induce a feeling of understanding. Intruding thoughts tend to be persistent and induce a feeling of panic. Intuitive thoughts often sound loving, while invasive thoughts sound scared. Intuitive thoughts usually come out of nowhere; invasive thoughts are usually triggered by external stimuli. Intuitive thoughts don’t need to be grappled with—you have them and then you let them go. Invasive thoughts begin a whole spiral of ideas and fears, making it feel impossible to stop thinking about them. Even when an intuitive thought doesn’t tell you something you like, it never makes you feel panicked. Even if you experience sadness or disappointment, you don’t feel overwhelmingly anxious. Panic is the emotion you experience when you don’t know what to do with a feeling. It is what happens when you have an invasive thought. Intuitive thoughts open your mind to other possibilities; invasive thoughts close your heart and make you feel stuck or condemned. Intuitive thoughts come from the perspective of your best self; invasive thoughts come from the perspective of your most fearful, small self. Intuitive thoughts solve problems; invasive thoughts create them. Intuitive thoughts help you help others; invasive thoughts tend to create a “me vs. them” mentality. Intuitive thoughts help you understand what you’re thinking and feeling; invasive thoughts assume what other people are thinking and feeling. Intuitive thoughts are rational; invasive thoughts are irrational. Intuitive thoughts come from a deeper place within you and give you a resounding feeling deep in your gut; invasive thoughts keep you stuck in your head and give you a panicked feeling. Intuitive thoughts show you how to respond; invasive thoughts demand that you react.” — Brianna Weist

A watch: The power of music

And finally, this beautiful story of friendship and music.  

Hope you enjoy!

Xo Trilby